Surround Yourself with Good People (And Where to Find Them)

I had yesterday planned with precision. There would be a Senior Mass and luncheon for my oldest daughter. Muffins with Mom with my youngest son. Then some quick shopping, packing and picking up of kids before I headed across the state to spend the night in Detroit where I needed to collect my Mom at…

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Is your life an adventure or a tragedy? You get to decide.

I hope you all had a blessed Easter. We had a beautiful day here. It was a little wet in the morning, but eventually it warmed up and a pleasant breeze rolled through. After our visitors had left, the kitchen was cleaned and the kids were in their middle of a sugar stupor, I escaped…

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My Husband is Dead and So I Have 1,670 Books on My To-Read List

Mere minutes ago, I added two more books to my to-read list on GoodReads. That brings my total up 1,670. That’s one thousand six hundred and seventy books I hope to read at some point in my life. I’ve been averaging about 50 books a year so if I don’t add another volume, I can…

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It Gets Better and That’s No Foolin’

The blog was a bit quiet in March. Did you notice? I did. This is my place to unspool the thoughts in my head, and I’ve missed having the opportunity to the work through some threads rolling around there lately. I serve as a volunteer for Junior Achievement, and that took up a good chunk…

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Saturday Musings: In the Pursuit of Always Reading More

Saturday morning has become my time to catch up on all my favorite blogs. One of these is Modern Mrs. Darcy, a blog largely devoted to books. The post I read today talked about big books – those with 600+ pages. In her introduction to the list, Anne Bogel says this: I do love a…

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Why You Should Consider “Doing Lent” This Year

A few weeks back, a post popped up on my Facebook news feed about the 40 Bags in 40 Days challenge. If you’re not familiar with it, the concept is to give away one bag of items for each of the 40 days in Lent. The Facebook link was accompanied by a comment that said…

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Valentine’s Day for Widows

Valentine’s Day is one of those emotional landmines every widow must navigate. If your grief is fresh, it’s a heart-wrenching reminder of what you’ve lost. Later, when the initial shock and grief wears off, it can still leave you feeling wistful and empty. Even at my stage of life – nearly four years into widowhood…

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    1. Hi Maryalene,
      I have stumbled upon your site and hope you don’t mind a widower poking around. I lost my beautiful wife this month last year and it’s been just brutal. I have a 16yr old daughter and 18yr old son and blessed in that they are taking it better than I am. Our parish/school community came together when we needed them but that seems like a just a memory now. It’s just so quiet. I have to soon make some financial decisions and trying to research as much as I can.
      Take Care,
      Andrew

      1. Hi Andrew,

        You are more than welcome here, and I am so sorry to hear about your wife. Brutal sounds about right to me. 🙁

        I’ve had a couple really supportive people who’ve been in it for the long haul, but it does seem like most of the help evaporated by the 6 month mark. I really don’t blame people. They aren’t living with it everyday, and I think they just figure we’ve settled into a new, comfortable routine. Meanwhile, I want to wave and say, Yoo Hoo! I’m still here…all alone….raising the kids all by myself…replaying sad memories in my mind every day. But I don’t think people really get it unless they’ve been there, done that.

        I hope this month is as good as it can be given the circumstances and that you are able to find the information you need to make the best decisions.

        Best wishes,

        Maryalene

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