Welcome to The Mighty Widow!

I’m Maryalene. I became a widow at age 35 when my husband, Tom, died at age 37.

He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer three years earlierLaPonsie-0002, and we went through chemo, radiation and a major surgery before we finally discovered it was a lost cause. I say “we” but it was really “he.” I basically watched helplessly from the sidelines, trying desperate to find the right things to say and do that would make dying seem somehow ok.

Together, we helped create five beautiful children; our youngest was only six months old when he died.

Now that Tom is gone, I’m working hard to pick up the pieces. As of this writing, we’re 2.5 years into the journey, and bits of normalcy are finally starting to click into place. I’m also finally ready to start talking about Tom and what we went through. I’ve never been able to stick with a journal, but I like the accountability and community of blogs so we’ll give this a try.

I also hope to put together a list of resources for widowed mothers — everything from who to call the day after a death to how to carry on in his absence.

I’m so glad you’re joining me here. I hope, together, we can be Mighty Widows.