grieving

Until Every Little Piece of You is Gone

Note: Amazon links on this site are affiliate links.   After my dad died unexpectedly, I distinctly remember sitting with my mom between visitations as she shoved his clothes into garbage bags and cleared out his desk. Meanwhile, here I am, four years after my husband died, and I still haven’t touched his junk drawer…

Don’t Look Back. There is Only Pain There.

It’s been an odd couple months for me. Well, maybe not odd. More like nice and refreshing. After Tom died, I flung myself full-speed into my freelance assignments. I rarely, if ever, said no to work and often found myself spending nights and weekends on the computer to meet deadlines. I regularly told myself that…

People Say They Want to Help. They Won’t.

That’s right. Plenty of folks say they want to help, but they never will. That’s not a knock on those people. It’s just reality – a reality I think every widow (or really, any person facing tragedy) should prepare for. Because if you don’t, you may find you’ve set yourself up for deep disappointment. When…

No One Gets to Say You’re Doing it Wrong

Widows get a lot of advice. I mean, oh so much advice. While I wouldn’t call all the advice I’ve received good, I’ve been very fortunate in that it has almost all come from a good place. I think I can count on one hand the number of times I was subject to advice from…