dealing with grief

Is your life an adventure or a tragedy? You get to decide.

I hope you all had a blessed Easter. We had a beautiful day here. It was a little wet in the morning, but eventually it warmed up and a pleasant breeze rolled through. After our visitors had left, the kitchen was cleaned and the kids were in their middle of a sugar stupor, I escaped…

My Husband is Dead and So I Have 1,670 Books on My To-Read List

Mere minutes ago, I added two more books to my to-read list on GoodReads. That brings my total up 1,670. That’s one thousand six hundred and seventy books I hope to read at some point in my life. I’ve been averaging about 50 books a year so if I don’t add another volume, I can…

It Gets Better and That’s No Foolin’

The blog was a bit quiet in March. Did you notice? I did. This is my place to unspool the thoughts in my head, and I’ve missed having the opportunity to the work through some threads rolling around there lately. I serve as a volunteer for Junior Achievement, and that took up a good chunk…

When You Can’t Have the Life You Want

My son wanted some juice so I pulled a glass out of the cupboard. It was short and round and reminded me of a pumpkin. It also reminded me of when I bought it. I had decided I wanted to clear our mismatched collection of glasses and mugs and bought the pumpkin-inspired glasses to replace…

No One Gets to Say You’re Doing it Wrong

Widows get a lot of advice. I mean, oh so much advice. While I wouldn’t call all the advice I’ve received good, I’ve been very fortunate in that it has almost all come from a good place. I think I can count on one hand the number of times I was subject to advice from…

Shaking the Stench of Death off Our Family

Back when my husband was wrapping up his first round of cancer treatment – so this was before all hope had been lost – we were at the hospital for a follow-up visit after his surgery. It was a spring day in Michigan so the air was warming up and the ground was thawing, but…