The Widow Life

It’s Good Friday

Today, the Christian world lapses into silence and mourning as we remember the passion and death of our Lord. In the months before and after Tom’s death, I found my myself returning again and again to the prayers we say during the Stations of the Cross. I’m to the point now where I realize it’s…

No One Gets to Say You’re Doing it Wrong

Widows get a lot of advice. I mean, oh so much advice. While I wouldn’t call all the advice I’ve received good, I’ve been very fortunate in that it has almost all come from a good place. I think I can count on one hand the number of times I was subject to advice from…

RIP Joey Martin Feek

Joey Feek’s story hits a bit too close to home so I have to admit I have actively avoided news stories about it. However, I see she passed away. Although I don’t know her or her music, I can’t help but feel tears tonight for her husband and her family. Even when you’re at peace…

Where are all the men?

Where are all the good men? Shortly after my husband died, one of my favorite blogs posted an article about the importance of fathers. It was beautifully written and was chockful of statistics about how active and engaged fathers increase good outcomes and decrease negative ones in children. It left me feeling entirely defeated. In…

The Widowed Life: Picking the Perfect Theme Song

I have to tell you I am firmly in the “I’d-rather-laugh-than-cry” camp. You may not be, and that’s a-ok and perfectly understandable. It took me more than two years before I could even think about joking about being a widow because it seemed so horribly offensive to my husband and our circumstances. However, I am…

Me and God…It’s Complicated

I am unabashedly Catholic. If you have enough kids to field a baseball team and still aren’t sure you’re “done,” you get high fives from me for being open to God’s will. Do you like a little Latin and incense on a Sunday morning? Hey, me too! Are you ok with the idea men and…